Thursday March 19, 2015
I get it, you have lives to change, you want to make six figures and travel the world. You want all of your money troubles to be long forgotten. You hear the stories, “I made it to 6 figures in 6 months!”, “I’m a millionaire in just 1 year!”.
Some of them might be true and some of them might not be. Whether they are true or not is irrelevant.
Here is what I know: If this is the story you are wanting to create for yourself and it hasn’t happened yet (and it’s already been 6 months, a year, maybe even 5 years), then this is the very reason why it hasn’t happened yet. Let me explain.
Let’s take a lesson from the world of dating (which by the way… is EXACTLY like business). ;)
In the book, ‘He’s Just Not That Into You’, there are several chapters such as:
- He’s just not that into you if he’s not asking you out….
- He’s just not that into you if he’s not kissing you…
- He’s just not that into you if he’s not having sex with you…
- He’s just not that into you if he’s not marrying you…
The concept of the book is that women in general tend to make up stories and reasons as to why certain things are not happening in their relationships, instead of realizing the truth about that relationship and seeing that it isn’t what they really think it is (because they keep thinking about the ‘potential’ of what could be), they make excuses and say things like… “He’s just not ready yet. He’ll commit down the road.”, “Once he see’s how amazing I am, he will put in the ‘extra effort” or “We’re just friends for now, but I know he likes me and he just needs time to get over his ex.”
Ladies, you know what I am talking about. Gentleman, I bet you have lady friends whom you have seen do this.
So, what does this have to do with how you are screwing your own business over?
The concept of the book is to consider yourself The Rule, not The Exception. Meaning, when you assume that if a guy isn’t calling you or asking you out, you don’t make excuses for him (he’s out of town, he needs space, he will call), you just consider you're the rule, and know that if he hasn’t called in a week, chances are, he is not going to call because (and here is the big reveal)… he’s just not that into you.
Imagine the mental chatter that a woman could free up in her mind if she wasn’t worrying about whether a man would call her or not?
The same thing happens in business. You have all of these expectations based on how you think things should unfold. Usually they are stories made up based on what you have seen other people do. Then, the problem lies in when it doesn’t happen that way and then you start feeling bad about the fact that it didn’t happen to you the way you thought it would or should.
Then you get into a cycle of ‘excuse’ chatter which prevents you from finding the actual path for you (equivalent to finding the right date), which goes something like this…
- “I’ll never get my first client.”
- “This is too hard.”
- “This works for everyone, how come it doesn’t work for me?”
- “Nobody cares about what I have to say.”
- “Maybe I’m just not cut out for this entrepreneur thing.”
- “<Insert your favourite line here>”
--> Have you heard yourself saying any of these?
***The truth is that it has nothing to do with anything of that. What is happening is that you are trying to control ‘The How’. You are trying to control how your path to success should unfold. The problem with this is that ‘The how’ is not your job.***
‘The How’ is the job of the universe. You know, the energy that created us all. It just might know a better path for you, for me and for all of us. *wink wink* (it’s really true).
Trying to control how your business will grow is like trying to control how you will meet your life partner. Think about how you have met past partners, could you have imagined how that could have been orchestrated? Of course not. Because you only know what you know and in the grand scheme of the universe, that is very little. And this doesn’t just apply to you, it applies to me and everyone on the planet.
There are 7 Billion people on our planet and we know that The Law of Attraction brings us together with those who are vibrating at our level. The universe always delivers, with precision, what will serve us best based on the energy we vibrate at. Sometimes, that means that we will need some obstacles thrown our way because in order to have that successful business, we need to ‘be’ more than we are now. So we aren’t ready.
That’s it. If you haven’t manifested the business you truly desire yet, then you aren’t ready.
That’s not so bad, is it?
Haha.. tell that to a single girl who would do anything to meet her future husband (you haven’t met him yet because you aren’t ready. I can see the blood boiling already… I know this feeling, I’ve been there and it is SO annoying). BUT here’s the thing: it’s the truth. The things you have in your life you have because you are ready for them. The things that are not yet in your life, you aren’t ready for. It’s that simple.
What is the moral of this story?
Stop trying to manipulate ‘how’ things are going to unfold, make peace with where you are and move on. Take action that feels good to you. Let the universe be your guide to what you want. You CAN have the business you dream of, but you’ve got to get out of your own way, put down the ego and allow the universe to take you on YOUR path, not someone else’s.
Who cares if it takes you 2 years instead of 1? Heck who care if it takes you 5 years instead of 2? If this is your ‘big dream’, it’s not going to happen over night. Just like a fantastic relationship (of any kind), doesn’t happen over night. It takes years of time together, going through ups and downs to create amazing relationships.
Business is no different. You are no different. Maybe you will have some crazy kick-ass, I made $10 Zillion dollars in 2 years kind of a story - maybe you won’t. But no matter what, if you really want your business to manifest, let the universe take you on the ride of your life. Sometimes, that means you will have hard times. That is because you need to grow. If you aren’t making 6 or 7 figures yet it is because you have more ‘being’ to come out of you. There is something for you to unlock (it’s all within you), that is on it’s way there. Don’t judge how it comes about, just sit back and enjoy the ride. That’s the fastest, easiest path to where you want to go. I promise.
See you soon,
P.S. I would LOVE to know your thoughts. Does this resonate on you? Have you been putting too much pressure on yourself and thus making things more difficult? Comment below and let me know. I can't wait to hear from you.
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