Tuesday May 19, 2015
This has come up a lot lately with coaches so I had to write about it. Do you find yourself saying things like;
“I should be making more money by now.”
“I should be blogging more consistently.”
“I should have a bigger email list by now.”
“I should be making as much as (insert your colleague/competition name here).”
“I should be feeling better about my business by now.”
You shouldn’t, shouldn’t you? Or should you?
In 3 years working with coaches this is one of the biggest ways coaches shoot themselves in the foot. Please stop doing this!!! Stop ‘SHOULDING’ all over yourself (and don’t let those who do it to you, bug you!)
You SHOULD be happy where you are right now and if you are not then you most absolutely should do something about it. But the one thing you shouldn’t do is feel bad, shameful or guilty about where you are. Why? Because that negative emotion is stopping you from taking positive action that is going to yield you the actual results you want in your business.
When you stay in the ‘Should’ state you are essentially feeling bad about the past (which you can not change) or about something you are more than likely not going to do anyways. So please, just stop doing it.
It’s not helping your business. It’s not helping your impact and it’s definitely not helping your bank account.
So, what is the next step that you should (pun intended) do? I’m so glad you asked…
- Discover where you are.
- Discover where you want to go.
- Ask yourself, what do I need to go from where I am to where I want to go?
- Find your answer and go get it.
Make a marketing calendar, hire a coach, take a program, make the opt-in and Facebook ad. Whatever it is, start taking action now and stop feeling bad about not taking action in the past. The past is over and you can’t do anything about it. So make peace with where you are.
You are where you are and that is that. It really is that simple.
Now go be awesome (and comment below if this resonates with you).